tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29509026705807979532024-03-13T10:23:42.887-07:00Porn Star Becca BlossomsPorn Star, Exotic Dancer, Adult Entertainer, Model, Actress, TV PersonalityBecca Blossomshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17540619067576304694noreply@blogger.comBlogger66125truetag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2950902670580797953.post-79916789427053924152013-09-17T01:53:00.000-07:002013-09-17T01:53:40.208-07:00I always believed that if we opened our minds, we can find inspiration anywhere. I had the pleasure of meeting a very inspirational person who has so much to offer. Never mind the fact she is a drug addicted street walker. Now, how the heck can I say a drug addicted street walker can inspire me? Open my mind? Get me to look within myself? What does a junkie or prostitute have to offer? <br />
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When you open your mind and shut out your preconceived notions, judgments, media nonsense and just see these humans as just that, humans. You can lean so much about them and even more about yourself. <br />
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I was blessed with the opportunity to meet Rayne. (I changed her name to protect her) She is a thin black woman with long, poufy hair, glasses and doesn't look at all like a drug addict. She is articulate, honest, intelligent and has a huge monkey on her back. She has engaged in street walking to support her demons. Rayne, in all her honesty and openness, made a statement that got my wheels spinning. As she was talking about her stints in rehab and her dealings with others who tried to help her and who have enabled her, she said, "I want to be a successful junkie." This is profound. Knowing that she is a junkie and there is no such thing as a successful junkie, she still longed to be one. She has a side of her that wants to get clean, she wants to support other junkies in getting clean. She longs to have a normal life. She seems to always be looking for ways to be successful in life and still be a junkie. <br />
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Our lives are the result of our choices. Sometimes those choices are hard to make and even harder to take action on. Rayne knows her life would be a lot better if she could get sober but she likes to be high. She needs to get high. She's addicted. When we want to lose weight, we don't like to give up junk food. We try to find ways to convince ourselves that we can still eat the junk food. We find excuses. We want to eat the junk food and still be successful. It doesn't work.<br />
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We do the same with our finances. Many of us are in debt because we didn't want to change our lifestyles, make financial changes when their necessary. We want to be as successful maintain our lifestyle when our income shrinks. It doesn't work. <br />
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Rayne isn't that much different from the rest of us. She desires to be loved, respected, have a nice life, be successful, secure and happy. Just because her demons are different than mine doesn't make me better than her. It doesn't make her value as a human being any lower. She is a person of quality that is suffering, struggling, hurting. To judge her would be to judge myself, my struggles and demons don't have to be with drugs. The bottom line is we all have our demons and struggles. Besides judging the demons and struggles of others, we should have compassion and support each other. <br />
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Becca Blossomshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17540619067576304694noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2950902670580797953.post-52235718952547168502013-07-16T11:26:00.001-07:002013-07-16T11:26:22.684-07:00The American DreamWhat happen to our society? My interpretation of the American Dream was to have the opportunity to work hard enough to have a comfortable life with privileges and rights that we have worked fought long and hard for. We can learn a trade, get a degree or work in the family business. We can have 2 parent households with one parent working and making enough money to support the family while the other ones does the very important job or raising the kids. The American Dream is about opportunity, learning, family values, success and failures, strong work ethic, pride in our country and who we are.<br />
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Today, I see the American Dream dwindling away and Americans themselves are allowing it to happen. The younger generations seem to have less and less people that want to work, they feel they are entitled. I even see people my age milking the unemployment and the welfare system, living with their elderly parents or other family members that will take care of them and seem perfectly happy with it. Grandparents are raising grand kids more and more. The last I looked, 40% of Americans are on public assistance. We simply can't survive as a country like this. <br />
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Our President seems to like this situation. Cutting tax breaks for the rich (which the majority of us work for), forcing small businesses with 50 or more people to buy health insurance (Obama care makes me ashamed of every person who allowed it to pass and even more sicken by our ignorant President), raising taxes and not taking responbility for it, trying to fix his mess with more handouts, I can go on for a long while what this waste of sperm has done to hurt the American people and squash the American Dream. <br />
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We need education, job opportunities and to stop sending our industry over seas. That's what built this country. If we don't produce goods and if lazy people don't get off their asses and stop living off the government, we are going to continue on this downward spiral. We can't survive on technology and service jobs alone.<br />
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As parents and elders, we need to get the youth off their butts and working, focusing on their future and make sure they have every educational opportunity we can give them. We need to make people earn their government assistance while actively looking for a job or getting an education. Stop spending money on handouts with nothing back from them. No one is entitled to live for free, everyone should contribute either at a job or while getting assistance. Life isn't meant to be easy. NO ONE owes ANYONE anything. If we don't get every one's butt back to work that is able to work, we will never survive.<br />
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We need to get serious about what's important and stop worrying about who is sleeping with who or what people do on their own time. We need to pay attention when our President allows Americans to die then distract it because someone has a mistress...who really cares? What's more important, our well being and survival as a country or who a military leader is fucking? The very word Hooker comes from General Hooker who would bring his ladies to entertain troops. This has been going on all through history and we have been to win wars and do a hell of a lot better than we're doing now. As long as the job is done, who cares where he puts his pee pee at night??<br />
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Becca Blossomshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17540619067576304694noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2950902670580797953.post-18267710595102710792013-05-06T09:06:00.000-07:002013-05-06T09:06:15.542-07:00Happy Spring!!Although I love the change of seasons, spring is my favorite one. I love the smells, fresh air, a clean garage, festivals, bands, running, birds singing, new plants spouting and the good mood it puts me in. For me, big things come with the new seasons, all good stuff.<br />
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The most exciting thing happening this spring is my children's graduation parties. My son finished high school a semester early and will be staring college in the fall. My daughter is finishing 8th grade and moving on to high school next school year. We're having a huge graduation for the both of them, our family and friends are very proud of both of them :) As their mom, I'm ecstatic!!<br />
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Spring also means yard work which I love but I'm not very good at. I have lots of veggies to plant in my garden. I'm huge canning and dehydrating so we have organic food all year long. Freshly picked food is so yummy, it tastes so much better than store bought veggies. I'm doubling the size of my garden, it's going to be a lot of work that I love doing.<br />
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Something new to me this year is getting my motorcycle license. I have been wanting to do this for a long time, I'm finally getting it done. I'm hoping to by a Harley this summer. I have a been around bikes all my life, now it's time I had my own. There's nothing like riding, I love it. I've always been on the back of a bike, now it's my turn to be on my own.<br />
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This spring is going to be a blast, I hope everyone has a wonderful spring!!Becca Blossomshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17540619067576304694noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2950902670580797953.post-20079631815042671822013-04-07T17:53:00.000-07:002013-04-07T17:53:10.342-07:00Kudos to Mom!!!I went down south to visit the family for Easter and had a wonderful time. While there, I had a friendly debate about religion with my mom's husband, who happens to be a great guy. During this debate, my mother reminded me of a decision she made when I was a child. This decision helped me to have the freedom to grow into the authentic me. My family is primarily Southern Baptist. My mother never crammed the religion down my throat. She made sure we knew the basics of our family's religion however, didn't force us to go to church, tell us what we should believe or which book to follow. As a child, I had friends of different religions and I was allowed to go to various churches and experience different beliefs and ways to celebrate beliefs.<br />
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The most respectful decision my mom made was not allowing us to get baptized. She felt that children weren't mature enough to make the decision to be baptized for themselves. Being baptized is a personal decision each person should make for themselves, no one parents should make for a child. It's disrespectful for anyone to force children, or any human being, to do this. <br />
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I'm still not baptized today and I never will be. It means nothing to me. I'm going to heaven because I'm a good person, do good by others and live the best life I can. I have a strong relationship with the Mother and Father Gods. I'm very spiritually healthy, happy and strong. I have grown to be Buddhist and have become educated enough to know that the Bible is too manipulated for me to put faith in. I'm not saying anyone should believe as I do, that's a personal choice for each person. I was given the upbringing to be secure and strong enough to make my own decisions and become the person I am.<br />
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Thank you Mom, you really knew what you were doing!!Becca Blossomshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17540619067576304694noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2950902670580797953.post-32369604376791726842013-02-13T08:30:00.002-08:002013-02-13T08:30:53.798-08:00I didn't like what I saw...I have no shame in the fact that I'm 10 months away from turning 40, I embrace and appreciate my age. I love that I'm a healthy person, I have no health problems. On Feb. 12, I shot two scenes with Naughty America. I had a great time on set and of course I had a great time shooting. After shooting a scene with Sonny Hicks, a very sweet and sexy performer from Las Vegas, we watched the intro. We did a really cute intro and were very happy about the results. I thought it was cute however, the camera shot me from behind while working and I didn't think that was so cute. OMG!!! I really need to tone up. Because I feel healthy and energetic, I work out regularly and eat pretty healthy, I haven't really paid attention to my looks. I've always been curvy and short and I simply don't have the genetic makeup to be super tiny without drug abuse or an eating disorder. I have learned to love my curves, there's nothing wrong with hips, butt and boobs.<br />
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Now that I see my normal workout routine and diet aren't sufficient, I've decided to step it up. I'm starting the Insanity Workout as soon as it gets to my house. I'm also making some changes to my diet. My goals are to tone up. I'm not concerned about my weight or the size clothes I wear. I want to tone up a bit and challenge myself physically. <br />
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I don't believe in taking diet pills, drugs or starving myself. I'm doing this the what believe is the right way, with diet and exercise.<br />
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Wish me luck!! The next time I shoot it will be with less fat and more muscle :)<br />
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Wish me luck!!Becca Blossomshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17540619067576304694noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2950902670580797953.post-23640846998175700142013-01-29T09:43:00.001-08:002013-01-29T09:43:24.473-08:00Safe SexSafe sex is something we all need to be educated about from the time we are old enough to have sex. Sex is a normal, biological act however, humans like to make it a dirty, bad, negative thing. If you throw religion or politics in the mix, you have a big, confusing mess that greatly misinforms and can be potentially dangerous to the health and well being of humans. Sex is a survival mechanism, the Limbic System, which regulate our feelings, including love and lust, emotions, impulses and drives among countless others, can't possible by regulated, judged or changed by politicians or religious people. God gave us this system along with hormones such as dopamine, a feel good hormone and oxytocin, the cuddle hormone. He didn't make us biologically made for sex just to tell us not to have it or have laws regulation it.<br />
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That being said, I'm writing this from the view point of a parent, sex worker and supporter of sex education and safe sex. I believe that we as a society has got to get a better grip and safe sex and educating our youth and even adults in our society. With the way things are going, we are going to be less and less able to afford STD's and HIV treatment, teen pregnancies and more people on welfare due to unexpected children. Religious leaders have got to stop quilting people into think sex is bad or goes against God. I believe it doesn't. What we have been doing isn't working, we still have issues that go along with unsafe sex or lack of sex education.<br />
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As a parent, I want my kids to be educated about EVERYTHING in this world, the good and the bad. Of course, it's very important to keep things age <span style="background-color: yellow;">friendly</span>. As far as sex goes, I feel that if I don't make sure my children are educated, someone else will and it could be in a bad way. It's my job to protect my children and raise them to be responsible, productive, healthy and happy adults. If I took the advice of the Pope (no disrespect to him), I would be teaching my children not to use condoms when they decide to have sex. Kids are going to experiment with sex in one way or another. I certainly don't teach my kids to go into the world and get naked with every person they see. I teach them about their bodies, respecting themselves and others and when they feel their ready, to be safe. When my son had his first girlfriend, he came to me and told me he wanted to have sex with her and asked me for condoms. Being the protective Mama Bear I am, I gave him at least 30 condoms and told him to let me know if he needed more. The look on his face was priceless. I patted myself on the back a little...I try to keep open communication with my children and I feel, at least in this case, it worked. Failing to educate my children will be to fail them. I'm not willing to fail my children.<br />
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When I was in high school, I went to a high school in Mississippi for my sophomore year. Going to small school in the south from a school in the Chicago suburbs was like going from Chicago to Mars for me, it was just so different and clearly not anywhere the same as far as sex education. Sex education was a part of our normal curriculum since 5th grade in Illinois. I remember only one pregnant teen in high school my freshman, junior and senior year. During my one year in Mississippi, which does not require sex ed in the schools, it was common, teens had babies at home, babies on the way or were planning to have babies. One teen even told me that she got pregnant to show her mother how responsible she was. I was totally lost, I couldn't wrap my head around this. This culture went against everything I was ever taught or lived. The best most schools that do offer sex education in Mississippi do normally is to teach abstinence-only programs, according to thinkprogress.org. Abstinence-only programs are only as effective as teaching kids eating an apple will keep you from getting pregnant, they simply don't work. Mississippi has the highest rate of teen pregnancy in the nation. New Mexico has no sex education requirements, they have the second highest teen pregnancy rate. New Hampshire, on the other hand, requires comprehensive sex education in their schools that includes abstinence, condoms and contraception, according to thinkprogress.org and they have the lowest rate of teen pregnancy. I don't think this is a coincidence. Studies show that teens who have comprehensive sex ed in their schools are 60% less likely to get pregnant.<br />
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In the porn industry, we are very protective of our bodies, contracting an STD can mean the end of our shooting careers. No one wants to get sick. We are tested regularly and we don't have to work with anyone we might think is irresponsible in their personal lives. Most performers I know are very careful in their personal lives. We either use protection or are only with one partner. Although most of us do bareback on camera, we are not advocating for unsafe sex. With all the measures we can take to keep ourselves safe, condoms, monogamous personal relationships, testing, we can never eliminate the risk of disease or pregnancy, only minimize it. I have never had and STD and I wasn't a teen mom, I credit that fact to my education and knowledge that started in the 5th grade.<br />
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Humans have been well aware of STD's for a very long time now. according to today.com, condoms can be dated back to 1000 BC when Egyptian men used linen sheaths to protect against disease. in the 1700's, animal intestines were referred to as "cobweb against infection". In the 1800's, rubber became the popular material to make condoms out of and in the 1900's, we started using latex. In the 1950's, we started widely marketing condoms. Since then, we got even more creative and now we have condoms made of polyurethane, their thinner and stronger, and we have various shapes, sizes, colors and even flavors. It's a beautiful thing. We have known for a very long time how STD's are spread and pregnancy occurs. STD's know no gender, race, religion, sexual orientation, etc. To think that avoiding sex with a certain group of people is a safe way to keep us healthy is plain ignorant. <br />
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It doesn't matter who you're having sex with, if we are not aware of the risks and are careless, we might as well play Russian Roulette. If we don't educate our children, we are doing nothing short of putting the gun to their heads. This isn't political or religious, it's human safety and health as well as biology and psychology. It's better to make informed, educated decisions than to ignore this natural subject and watch our youth and ourselves get hurt.<br />
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<br />Becca Blossomshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17540619067576304694noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2950902670580797953.post-31482829822535682062013-01-21T02:58:00.000-08:002013-01-21T02:58:32.561-08:00ReflectionsLately I've been struggling with some personal issues and through all this, my higher power and Buddhist beliefs and practices have helped me through and helped me to get through my struggles and grow into a stronger, healthier, happier and more spiritual person than before my struggles. I'm not trying to tell people to believe or practice as I do, those are things that are personal from person to person and no one has the right to judge or put down the spiritual beliefs of another. I've recently learned of a few things that were key to getting me through my struggles in a healthy, productive way.<br />
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Meditation has been a great coping mechanism for me. I first learned how to do this from a psychologist I was seeing. Her name was Diane. I was looking for coping mechanisms for my anxiety disorder besides drugs. I hate drugs. This woman introduced me to meditation and other Buddhist practices and, as far as I'm concerned, gave me life tools that saved my soul as well as my ass. I still meditate and will always continue to do so. I connect with my higher power and the powers in the universe, my mind clears, I'm still and relaxed on the inside and I can cope with life much better.<br />
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Acceptance is necessary. There's too many people judging others, putting them down, defining others by their mistakes or faults and allowing no redemption or the positive parts of them to shine through. I accept someone for all they are, their faults and positive attributes without judgements. To accept someone is not always to allow them in your life. I doesn't even mean you have to like them. There have been times when it was necessary to remove someone from my life because they were toxic. If someone is harmful to me in any way, physically, emotionally, spiritually, financially, etc, the responsible thing to do is to remove them from my life. I can still accept that they are who they are and not put them down or hurt them. Acceptance does not mean you agree with what someone does or who they are, it just means we realize the truth about them, accept them as they are then decide if they get the privilege of being a part of our personal world.<br />
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Personal responsibility is something that is getting harder and harder to find in this country. I absolutely refuse to fall into the trap of not taking responsibility for myself, my kids, the life I've created. I don't expect the government to bail me out when I screw up. In fact, I don't want the government that involved in my life. My life...the good, the bad, the ups and the downs, are all results of my actions, decisions and the Karma I've created for myself. When I make a mistake and make a bad decision that creates bad Karma for myself or causes other negative things in my life, it's my job to take personal responsibility for myself by admitting to and correcting my mistake. I have learned to diversify my source of income, it's dangerous these days to have one job or one source of income. We all need multiple skills and ways to make money and take care of ourselves. It's also my responsibility to spend them money I'm blessed with wisely. I brought 2 people into this world. It's not the government's job to make laws regulating how I raise them, what I teach them, etc. That is all my responsibility. I refuse to live an unhealthy lifestyle and end up sick or unable to be here for those who need me. It's my responsibility to take the best care of myself I can so I can be here for my loved ones. I can go on and on about things I need to be personally responsible for. In a nutshell, I'm responsible for myself and my entire life. Action is what I need to do every day.<br />
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Keeping an attitude of gratitude. is so necessary in this materialistic world. It seems to common to define ourselves and allow others to define us on material things, income, or other ridiculous things. I am grateful for what I have and I count my blessings every day. I keep a gradated journal, it helps me to stay grounded and focused on what is really important in life. The more I realize how blessed I am, the less I put my happiness in things I don't have. I have come to realize that I'm one blessed human being. I find myself smiling and singing while doing laundry or running errands. When you really appreciate what you have, epically the little things, your psyche changes. Gratitude is necessary for happiness to occur. <br />
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For me, public service, helping others, giving even when I feel I don't have anything to give does something inside me that I can't explain. I do a lot of my giving through the work I do in the sex worker world however, I do give outside of that world also. I involve my children in helping also, outside of the sex worker world, of course. Helping someone, even if it's just a conversation or passing along information, does wonders for my soul. I know I was put on this earth to do what I do. Doing what I authentically was made to do is a huge blessing. My higher power made me to be a sex worker and fighter for sex worker rights as well has help (not enable) others. I am grateful for the skills I have been given to do what I do.<br />
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These are a few things that have carried me through hard times. They seem so simple but carry great powers when put them into place with the right intentions. I haven't taken drugs for my anxiety in years, I don't need to. Of course, it's more work to take care of myself than popping a pill is. Hard work and dedication to myself and everything I believe in has a much greater pay off than any medication. I'm still learning and growing. I'm excited about my life and my future. The little I know and put into practice has had profound and positive effects on my life, I have a lot to be excited about as I continue to learn and grow.Becca Blossomshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17540619067576304694noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2950902670580797953.post-64959135230950992572013-01-01T07:31:00.000-08:002013-01-01T07:31:40.155-08:00Happy 2013!!Happy New Year!! I'm really excited about moving into 2013, I know this year is going to be amazing. As with all amazing things, what is going on inside me is where all good things start in my life; so my I have made my New Years Resolution one that will support all my goals. My resolution is to grow through mindfulness, inner peace, love and acceptance. I can't be my best at anything if I'm not at my best inside first. I've been working on the mindfulness for a very long time now and I must say, it's been amazing going through the awakenings and changes that I've experienced so far. Simply being mindful is a strong life skill.<br />
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Inner peace...something I haven't always had and never realized I didn't have until I had it. This was a very unusual experience for me. I've always been strong, driven, confident, smart. I though I was everything I needed to be, most of the time. Of course, we all have moments of insecurity, doubt, fear, etc. For the most part, the good things far out weighed the bad and I thought I was just fine. The only thing that held me back was an anxiety disorder which I saw as a nascence most of the time. After years of therapists, psychologists, medications, and no real results, I was blessed with one last psychologist. This woman was amazing. She was different. I saw a light and spirit in her that I don't see in many people. I opened up to her about all I am, all I do, all of me. In return, this woman starting introducing me to different coping mechanisms different from any other I've experienced or known. As we progressed, I realized the practices that worked best for me were rooted in Buddhism. At that point, I started studying Buddhism and eventually became a Buddhist. Not only did practicing Buddhism almost eliminate my anxiety, without drugs, but it opened my mind, heart and spirit. I realize I was missing a piece to the puzzle and didn't even know it. I can now say I have true inner peace, the missing tool. I have Buddhism and Diana, the psychologist I was blessed with by my higher power to thank.<br />
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When I say love, I'm talking about more than simply giving and receiving love to and from others. I'm thinking on a deeper level. How I treat people, my thoughts, my actions, I want love to be in all I do. I realized that if you put a little love in what you do, big things happen. I practiced treating people whom I find difficult, annoying and mean with love. I have to admit that when I first put this into practice, it wasn't will my full heart and for selfish reasons only. I was working on myself and only went through the motions while biting my tongue when attempting to deal with people with love. It didn't take long to realize that I was getting positive results when I faking it. I began to wonder, what if I did it for real? What if I really put my heart and spirit into treating people with love? I gave it a try, still not at 100%, and the results were more amazing. I now put my heart and spirit in my interactions with my fellow humans. The thing I don't do is always do it 100%, with my full heart and spirit. My goal with love in to get closer to 100%, even with the difficult people that I have decided I don't care for.<br />
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I have found acceptance to be the easiest thing to do. I learned a long time ago that if I accept people for all they are, I have less dislike for them. I don't have to like them or agree with all they do, say feel, think, etc. I just accept that they are who they are. After I accept them in full, I can make a decision to keep them in my little world or peacefully remove them. I have a clearer mind, I can make the decision to keep or remove them without regret, wonder or looking back. The key to acceptance is to accept without bias. If I don't accept anyone without bias, I can never be truly accepting of them. Without accepting others as a whole, for all they all, I can never know them for all they all and make a good decision about keeping them in my world or removing them from it. Part of removing someone is removing them without anger, resentment or any negative feelings for them, it's simply letting them go and moving on. Forgiveness is a huge part of this. I am very passionate about my advocacy work and helping anyone I can. If I don't accept people for who they are, I can never fully benefit them, help them, give my all. Acceptance without judgement is such a fulfilling thing and something that isn't always easy to do.<br />
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2013 is going to be a great year. Most of all, I'm looking forward to growing inside so I can be better for those on the outside. These are my resolutions, I have been working on them for a very long time however, I'm not where I want to be...yet. That's why I chose them as my resolution. Their working for me and can only make me better if I keep doing my part.<br />
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Have a happy, blessed and safe 2013!!<br />
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Becca Blossomshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17540619067576304694noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2950902670580797953.post-65545111196272654362012-12-23T05:30:00.001-08:002012-12-23T05:30:51.821-08:00It's been a rough week for me emotionally, the Newtown shooting is really pulling at my heart. I've been praying for those people multiple times a day since it happen. I feel so helpless, what else can most of us do besides pray and donate money? I've never experienced something so distant causing me to have such strong emotions. I want to hug and kiss my kids just a little tighter...I get to have them for Christmas. I can't imagine having presents hidden in my house for my children and their not going to be there; walking in their bedrooms or getting up in the morning to get them ready for school only to be reminded that they will never be home again. I keep remembering my children when they were 5 and 6, I get to have happy, loving memories. My children got to grow beyond kindergarten safely. My heart goes out to the parents who lost their little ones. Do we wish them a Merry Christmas knowing that it's not going to be so Merry this year? <br />
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The teachers in Newtown are amazing heroes, they protected their kids the best they could and some, along with the principle and others, lost their lives protecting the little ones. I've always felt teachers should be among the highest paid and respected in our communities, they are teaching our children, out future. They do so much more than just teach, they end up being counselors, providers for those who don't have, a shoulder to cry on and now have proven to be heroes and protectors. I have the highest respect for teachers in our communities.<br />
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No one is going to walk away from this situation without being effected. I've paid attention to news stories, both mainstream and otherwise, and the changes this shooting is going to have in individuals, communities and the country as a whole are so obvious. The kindergartners and others who experienced this are going to be forever changed. I heard someone read a letter that a child wrote to his dead best friend. A Sunday school teacher had children missing from her class while other children had a hard time being there or simply couldn't go. What about children in other activities with their friends such as scouts, dance, sports, etc. Can you imagine being a little 5 year old and part of your normal routine is to go next door and play with your friend or have your buddy spend the night on the weekends and now that friend is gone never to walk the earth again? Everyone needs to keep a close eye on the mental and psychological health or each other, the adults and children. Losing someone your expect to lose is hard enough. Losing a mass group of people in a way that takes the safety in safe places away and your security in you community is now questionable can really destroy a human being.<br />
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Among the heroes in the situation, Bikers have my respect and thanks. Being from the Midwest, growing up in the Chicago suburbs and now living in the Milwaukee area, I already have a deep respect for bikers, it's in my blood. Seeing that bikers went to Newtown and formed a human barrier to keep the crazy Westboro Baptist Church from picketing at the funerals and vigils just increases my list of personal heroes. I wish I could shake every one of their hands and say thank you, they displayed strength, compassion, courage and most of all, protected those who couldn't protect themselves from bullets from being victims once again. They made sure the families and loved ones of the victims had the opportunity to pay their last respects and give the ones who passed on a proper funeral. Thank you to all the bikers, I will always respect and love you for what you did.<br />
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The Westboro Baptist Church...ugh...some of the most evil, closed minded, unloving people I have ever heard of in my life. I really feel the need to remind everyone not to judge all Baptists from Westboro's ignorant actions of hate. I come from a long line of Southern Baptists (I am now Buddhist) and not one of them support or agree with Westboro's actions. Westboro is an insult to Baptists everywhere. I don't care how holier-than-thou you think you are, there is NEVER a reason to picket funerals or vigils. They say God sent the shooter in response to Connecticut's Gay Marriage Law. Who in their right mind would link Gary Marriage with the deaths of so many innocent people? James Dobson also used the deaths as a platform for his views on Gay Marriage, abortion and other issues. <br />
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What the hell is wrong with these cold hearted opportunists? Vigils, funerals and horrible, tragic events are NOT a platform to cram your beliefs and cruelty down our throats. How can you look a parent in the eye that just lost a child and has had to be strong for their other children, family members and community and tell them that their child was murdered because of all these political and religious issues. God did not kill those children, what the hell is wrong with these idiots? Westboro Baptist Church, in my opinion, is a HATE group. Their actions have stirred up negative emotions, anger and hate. Nothing good came from them as well as James Dobson. <br />
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I have had my own struggles through this, I've had to turn off the TV, avoid articles, remove myself from conversations, etc. to help myself deal with this tragedy. The fact that I can do these things is a blessing, the parents and loved ones of the victims don't have those options. They can't remove themselves from the situation, they can't escape. There is no break from the grieving, funeral planning, supporting each other, etc. They can't drive down the street and not see reminders of that horrible day.<br />
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Becca Blossomshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17540619067576304694noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2950902670580797953.post-18875451354482953472012-12-14T12:43:00.000-08:002012-12-14T12:43:26.530-08:00Elementary School Shooting TodayI have no words to describe how horrible the shooting in Connecticut has to be, it brings tears to my eyes. This one was at an elementary school...young children...how are they going to feel safe enough in this world to go back to school or a store or even feel safe in their own homes? How do you console a parent that has rushed to school knowing there was a shooting and finding out that your child was a victim?? These parents send their kids to school and shortly after that you find out that your child is dead. I can't imagine being a child in that situation, hearing the gunshots and screams, seeing your friends get shot or not knowing if your friends are alive. I can't imagine being a teacher there, trying to protect your class, keeping calm while the gunshots are going off. This is so sickening. <br />
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I'm currently watching the President Obama address this right now. He is obviously shaken up and emotional about this. He has had to pause several times to get through his speech and simply walked off when he was done. I'm sending prayers his way, there is going to be pressure on him to take action. He's going to have to work through this and make good decisions while dealing with his own emotions. I don't support a lot of his politics however, I give him credit for addressing the nation and responding to this. This is a time to put differences aside and support each other through this. Obama is a father and is still human, there is no way he, along with all the humans on this planet, can't be upset right now. <br />
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My own children are in school as I write this. Part of me wants to run to their schools as fast as I can and take them out of school, take them home and just love them and keep them home, with me and safe. Unfortunately, this isn't an options. We can't allow criminals to control us like that. We can't give our power away to them, regardless if their dead or alive.<br />
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I wanted to go on with this blog however, I need to walk away for now. I just heard there are 20 children confirmed dead. I need to take a break, this is too much for me. I am the lucky one, I can turn off the TV, walk away from the school and get my head together. The victims, survivors and officials on that scene don't have that choice. This will forever be a part of who they are.Becca Blossomshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17540619067576304694noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2950902670580797953.post-42838728067082002822012-12-09T20:56:00.001-08:002012-12-09T20:56:32.101-08:00It's the same ol' issue every year!!!It's December!! That's an awesome, December means Christmas and my birthday!!! Although I appreciate my birthday being in December, I haven't always appreciated it. When I was a kid, I always got ripped off. My birthday parties were smaller because money was tighter during the holidays. I absolutely hated that most years I got one present for both Christmas and my birthday. My brothers all had birthdays months away from Christmas so they got the bigger parties and 2 presents for the 2 events...them lucky boys!! Having my birthday exactly a week before Christmas wasn't always a blessing, at least not in my mind. Now, it is. I love the change of seasons, warm comfort food, hot chocolate, all the Christmas decorations and parties. Call it age, but staying home with loved ones on a cold December's night while eating warm comfort food and drinking hot chocolate (possible with a little Baileys) has become the best way to spend my birthday :)<br />
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There is another December tradition I'm not so fond of. Since the schools have pushed God out, they get very upset if you use words like "Merry Christmas". Both of my children have been in trouble for saying this in school at one time or another. I have had to correct teachers, principles, and other school employees on this. Don't misunderstand me here, I have the highest respect for those who educate our youth, that's one tough job. There are issues, like with the rest of us, the "school officials" are simply wrong on. On the occasions my children have been told not to wish someone a Merry Christmas because it will offend someone and religious holidays aren't allowed in our schools. That little rule only lasted as long as it took me to get to the school and correct everyone. First of all, Separation of Church and State is NOT in the Constitution. I've had to explain this to a history teacher at one time. Separation of Church and State is in a writing by Thomas Jefferson and all it was meant to say was the state can not tell the church how to worship. Here is an excerpt from his letter:<br />
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The "wall" was a metaphor for keeping government form interfering with religious practice. He references the First Amendment in his writing however, Separation of Church in State isn't in the First Amendment as so many tried to make me believe. In fact, the Amendment puts restrictions on the government, NOT the people. What we think of as Separation of Church and State today is a total misinterpretation. The Constitution however, does protect our right to free speech and freedom of religion. Therefore, my kids CAN and WILL without punishment say the words "Merry Christmas".<br />
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Of course, we want to teach our kids to be respectful of others. They will say "Happy Hanukkah" or "Happy Holidays" when they are aware of another person's different beliefs. They also are not offended if someone says the same to them. It's all meant to with someone well and no one can take that right away Isn't that more important than some uptight prick getting all bent out of shape over someone wishing him a Merry Christmas??<br />
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Happy Hanukkah<br />
Merry Christmas<br />
Happy Holidays<br />
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Becca Blossomshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17540619067576304694noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2950902670580797953.post-89793662939874354922012-11-23T21:28:00.001-08:002012-11-23T21:28:54.816-08:00I hope everyone had a blessed Thanksgiving, I know I did! Of course, like with every other holiday, I cooked way too much food!! I looks like I'm going to making a big pot of Turkey soup and canning it...that's not a bad thing :)<br />
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As I'm sure lots of us do during this time of year, I was reflecting on my blessings and I have a lot to be thankful for. I have 2 great kids who are very smart and talented. My son is starting college next year and my daughter is starting high school. I have a great family and friends that loves and accepts me for all I am and believe me, I'm a lot to accept!! I have some great activist and educational opportunities coming up, I'm super excited about that!! I got my new Bath and Body Works fragrances in the mail, I'm caught up on laundry, I can go on forever. I recently started a gratitude journal. I'm all about having a healthy spirit and the journal, although it's new to , has already helped.<br />
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Thanksgiving also brings back memories for me. As a child, we spent most of our Thanksgiving taking a road trip to Mississippi to visit the family. There's nothing like a southern-style Thanksgiving dinner and being spoiled by your grandparents for a week. In my early 20's, I went to Missouri with my kids to spend Thanksgiving with my grandfather, this is the greatest man I have ever had the privilege of knowing. He made one hell of a ham dinner and, in his classic style, continued to show me what a real man way. I have yet to find anyone who measures up to him although a few have come close.<br />
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Today was Black Friday, I didn't make the best decision today. I hate shopping on Black Friday so I never go, I normally do my shopping online. I needed my nails done so I made my appointment for today and the salon I go to is in the mall. I had to park in a parking lot next to the mall's lot and walk in the cold to the mall. I was a little early do I thought I would get some hot chocolate while waiting for my nail tech to be ready for me. That took about 45 minutes. I don't like overcrowded places or waiting in line for anything. After it was all said and done, I was back in the cold walking back to my car which was parked in a far away land. Needless to say, I came home and I've been here all day!! <br />
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With all that aggravation, I stayed in a good mood and just kept thinking good thoughts and counting my blessings. My car ran well and kept me warm to and from the mall, my nail tech is awesome and did a stellar job as usual, I'm fortunate enough to be able to get my nails done, the hot chocolate was yummy, the salon wasn't busy, etc, etc.<br />
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Life is good and it is full of blessings :)Becca Blossomshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17540619067576304694noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2950902670580797953.post-4901091653516834452012-11-02T09:39:00.001-07:002012-11-02T09:39:52.695-07:00Sutter the Silence
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Becca Blossomshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17540619067576304694noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2950902670580797953.post-71243088707130827772012-10-08T16:00:00.001-07:002012-10-08T16:00:25.610-07:00<a href="http://www.pornhub.com/event/save-the-boobs">http://www.pornhub.com/event/save-the-boobs</a>Becca Blossomshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17540619067576304694noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2950902670580797953.post-39006405739350244532012-10-08T15:56:00.001-07:002012-10-08T15:56:17.996-07:00Really???<br />
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The donations were about helping those with Breast Cancer, does it really matter where the money was donated from? If their going to be that way, they should look at their other donors. They HAVE received money from sex workers, myself being one for them.<br />
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There are porn performers who get the unfortunate diagnosis of breast cancer; the fact that their sex workers does not make them any less valuable as humans or women.Becca Blossomshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17540619067576304694noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2950902670580797953.post-63327677150910273662012-10-01T12:19:00.000-07:002012-10-01T12:19:14.349-07:00Good Stuff and Scary StuffThis past Saturday SWOP-Wisconsin was at Slutwalk in Milwaukee this year and I once again had the honor of speaking. Although this year seemed to have a smaller turnout, it was a success. Katie Jesse, an activist I greatly admire, took it over 2 weeks before the official event and did an awesome job with little time. SWOP-Wisconsin had our table there, providing drinks and snacks and talking to those who were interested in talking to us. <br />
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I feel my speech didn't go as well as last year, I didn't feel as prepared as I should have been although I thought I was before I went on. This year my speech was about human sexual assault other than in-person, hands on ways. The two major ways that I talked about were web cam and porn shoots. Now, before I go any further, please understand that pimps, regardless of prostitution, web cam, porn or any other way to traffic and sexually assault humans, is NOT part of the legitimate Adult Industry. These guys are criminals, bad guys, and give a good industry a bad name. <br />
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Web cam is a very common and often ignored way to sexually assault someone. The victims of web cam sexual assault and trafficking are very often hard to find and help. The bad guys can keep their shows from appearing online in certain cities, countries, etc. This makes it nearly impossible for authorities to rescue the victims. Web cam is a fun form of entertainment for both legitimate performers and clients however, the abuses of web camming is devastating to the people who are doing it against their will. <br />
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I've never been on a porn shoot where I was aware of anyone being there against their will however, it DOES happen. The pimps have the girls do the shoots and keep their money, it's just like turning a well paying trick for them. I'm not referring to the legitimate agents in the adult industry, I'm referring to the actual pimps and bad guys that use our industry to commit their crimes and hurt people. <br />
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The authorities don't know exactly what to do with situation and all too often, they are mis or under informed. From my personal experience with law enforcement, they very seldom want to help in situations like this and it's all too easy to claim it's not their jurisdiction and refer the person turning to them to another agency who then again says it's not their jurisdiction and refers them elsewhere. It's a horrible pattern in our world. This is an issues that needs more attention, education and ACTION. I wish I had all the answers as to how to handle this but I don't. <br />
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On a lighter side, we raised a good amount of money for SWOP-Wisconsin and Slutwalk through donations for our treats :) It felt really good to help out such a great cause and spread the word about SWOP. We're hoping to be at more events in the future and really start getting to know our community better as we introduce ourselves to them. <br />
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Becca Blossomshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17540619067576304694noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2950902670580797953.post-67394494076948642342012-09-16T15:25:00.004-07:002012-09-16T15:47:30.997-07:00What defines me?I love this question and the more I answer it, the more I get to know me and like me. I realized through the past few years of asking myself and answering this question that I'm a very complex, multi-talented, intelligent and loyal person. I wasn't expecting to find the things out about me that I did. I also have realized that knowing what defines me gives me confidence, security in myself, strength and the ability to handle situations and people that could be more difficult.<br />
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Very often, others will define my whole person by one element of my life. The fact that I'm a porn star comes with sterotypes that just don't fit me. I very often get dick pictures e mailed to me with vulgar language. I am a sensusal, sexual person however, random dick pictures with comments like "Do you like my cock?" and "I want to fuck you" do absolutely nothing for me. Guys do this because I have done adult films and besides realizing that there is a human behind Becca Blossoms, they define me as someone that breathes, eats and sleeps fucking. Another gentleman who I was chatting with on Yahoo while getting some work done on the computer asked me what I was doing. I said "I'm working" and his response was "Your fucking right now?" He obviously defines me as someone who only fucks for a living and doesn't realize that's one of the things I do. I'm sexual, sensual, I love to perform, I love what I do. Performing on film does not define me as a person, I use who I am deep down inside to help me to perform well. If I were only defined by the fact I did adult films, I wouldn't have any fans, my work would be terrible and I wouldn't be so comfortable with what I do, proud of the films I have made and would be empty inside.<br />
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Another thing that I'm often defined by is the myth that all adult performers are on drugs, drink excessively and like to party all the time. I often get offered drugs and get invited, when I'm out, to go out to someones car and do a few lines or pop some pills. I have never done drugs except for smoking pot. I'm a very light, social drinker and often don't drink when I go out. I've always been a health nut so the whole party scene doesn't really appeal to me. I'm offended when someone offers me drugs simply because they think I do them because I'm an adult entertainer. Not all of us spend our time partying and messed up on something. I'm not defined by the myths of being a porn star.<br />
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Loyalty, I'm a very loyal person. I have strong family values and I'm very loyal to my family and friends. I'm also loyal to the sex workers that have confided in me and have became a part of SWOP-Wisconsin. You will never find me stabbing anyone in the back, using them, being dishonest or turning my back on anyone I love. <br />
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Integrity, how I conduct myself, allow myself to act and where I allow my head to go are all things that define me. Of course, being human, we all make mistakes or allow our thoughts to wonder off where they shouldn't. I try to catch myself when this happens. I use my words, actions and thoughts to do the best I can to be the best person I can be.<br />
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Spirituality, I'm a very spiritual person, I have a relationship with my higher power that has grown and changed through time. I feel a connection with the universe and with people. I'm a practicing Buddhist and through Buddhism I have grown spiritually healthier, connected deeper with my higher power and my own soul and have been blessed with a peaceful, rewarding, loving life. My feet remain on the ground. No amount of money, success, who knows me or who I know can ever replace my spirit and soul. They are things I work hard to keep healthy and grow, and they are never negotiable.<br />
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Hard Working, this is something that has been put in me since my childhood. I come from the typical middle class, hard working, Midwestern family. I have no problem getting up and going to work and doing my best. It doesn't matter if I'm performing, directing, meeting a new producer, dong my web cam, running SWOP or volunteering with one of the many organizations I work with in my community. It's very important that I work hard, give it my all and at the end of the day know that I did my best, I accomplished something. I'm not afraid of a little dirt, solving problems, or being the only one working my butt off. I don't believe in taking hand outs, when times get tough, I get creative and find ways to work more or make the work I'm doing work better for me.<br />
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Happiness, this is a choice, not something that happens to me. I choose to be happy and work hard to stay that way. I know that working out, having creative outlets, working hard, making good life choices, etc. all contribute to my happiness. Happiness is the result of good life choices. When I look back in my life and see periods of time where I wasn't happy, it's always due to life choices. I'm not talking about things that happen that keep us from being happy such as a flat tire or the death of a loved one. I'm talking about not feeling happiness and joy from deep within me. When I'm not happy, I now I need to change a choice I have made.<br />
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Independent, this has worked for me and against me. I'm a very independent person, my mother raised me to be. She taught me to be strong, make life work for me, make good choices and to fight for what I believe in, what I want to who I am. This has worked against me at times. I have to remind myself about little things such as letting the gentleman pick up the tab while on a date or asking for help when I could use it. I have gotten better, although it still feels a little weird when a date pays for everything. <br />
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I cold go on and on about what defines me. I have discovered each thing one at a time and I'm still getting to know me. The things that don't define me are:<br />
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The tag on my clothes, I've never been one that was into wearing designer names or carrying a Gucci bag. This just isn't me and I contribute that again to my middle class Midwestern upbringing. I love cute clothes and shoes and I don't like cheap, poorly made anything. However, I will never spend thousands of dollars on anything article of clothing or bag, it's just not necessary. I look good in what I buy and no matter what I decide to wear or carry, it doesn't define me, it only says I like cute clothes :)<br />
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My house and car, these are 2 things that are often looked at as status symbols in our society. I like a nice, clean house with a big yard. I have cute little ranch house in a suburb that is about 50 years old. My neighbors are great, I love living here. My house is cute, clean, well taken care of and most of all, it's home for me and my kids. The only part of this that defines me is the loving home I have created for my kids. I fill my house with love and so do my children. The value of my house isn't important. I can provide the same loving home environment for my kids in a 2-bedroom apartment and, in fact, I have. The same goes for my vehicle. I have a little convertible I drive in the summer, I bought it used. It's a cute little car, when I was looking, I wanted a convertible for the summer because I though it would be nice to drive one in the summer since I love being outside. Although driving my little car is something I like to do, it doesn't define me. The value isn't important, the enjoyment I get out of it is. Enjoyment is good for my psyche and spirit.<br />
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My income, I never share what I make with anyone because it has absolutely nothing to do with the quality of person I am and doesn't make me any better or worse than anyone else. I know how to work hard, pay my bills and provide for my family; anyone that knows me knows that I do these things well. What is in my bank account or the value of my assets are just numbers, nothing more.<br />
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What others say about me, in a nutshell, other people don't have the power to define me. Negative things have been said about me and the best way I find to deal with it is to ignore it. I don't have to associate with people who see me negatively. Their entitled to their opinion and I have no desire to try to change it or stop them from saying negative things. I'm confident enough in myself that I know it doesn't matter. I have a strong enough personality to let it roll off my shoulders and keep my mind on the positive things in life, there is so much more positive than negative.<br />
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I could go on and on about what does or doesn't define me. I'm still getting to know me and so far I like what I know so far. Answering the question "What defines me?" isn't easy or able to be answered in 30 seconds. It's one question that I have been answering for many years now and I will always continue to answer. <br />
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Becca Blossomshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17540619067576304694noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2950902670580797953.post-87978565421666217742012-09-11T18:04:00.001-07:002012-09-11T18:04:56.387-07:00I can't help but feel even more disgusted with are legal system, not that they weren't disgusting before. Human Trafficking is a huge hot button political issue right now. Even I sit on the Human Trafficking Task Force in Milwaukee. It's a serious issue that needs serious attention. Most of us normal people can figure this much out. Now we throw law enforcement, politicians and the worry about every one's bottom line in there and the true concern about victims of human trafficking and the bad guys gets squash under the weight of all the BS. We now have our Federal Government giving money to municipalities to catch people that traffic humans and their victims. The problem is, very little of this money goes to human trafficking, the majority of it goes to catching independent escorts who have absolutely nothing to do with trafficking. Independent girls are easier to catch and more likely to pay their fines. Pimps love, love, love the independent girls, we distract the police. <br />
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When the police to happen to stumble upon a real human trafficker and victims, our social services aren't equipped to actually help anyone. Most helping organizations mean well however, they don't understand the victims and can do little to help them. More education is needed for this. Our joke of a government, starting with our ridiculous excuse for a president, doesn't care enough to make sure the money given to find bad guys and victims of human trafficking is actually used for that purpose. I've been working with sex workers from all walks of life and areas of sex work, I'm an advocate for sexual assault victims and very often those victims are victims of human trafficking. There isn't enough help for these people and the thought at what local law enforcement agencies are doing with money given to them to catch human traffickers makes me sick to my stomach.Becca Blossomshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17540619067576304694noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2950902670580797953.post-87174011570861514622012-08-15T05:56:00.000-07:002012-08-15T05:56:01.909-07:00Good Morning!!<br />
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I'm getting ready to head home from Hammond,IN. I met some great people here and I most certainly will be back to Indiana...I already have some other areas in mind that I want to visit. The only draw back was the hotel looked a hell of a lot better online than it really is. I like to stay in nice, clean places. Although this place isn't horrible, it's not a place I will return to. This hotel also doesn't have a workout room...that's a huge slip up on my part and a big no no when booking a hotel for me. I gotta work out. I am creative and didn't go without activity however, this is something I need make sure I pay more attention to.<br />
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It's going to be warm out today, as long as it stays dry, it should be a great day to drive home with top down on the car...that puts me in such a great mood :)<br />
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I saw a news story on Fox Chicago today...and I really wish I can remember the name of the dad in this story. The dad does triathlons and brings his daughter with him. She has cerebal palsy and is unable to walk. This dad wants her to experience all the out doors has to offer. Fox Chicago showed him pulling her in a little float in the water, pushing her in a stroller and pulling her behind his bike. I love to see parents being parents and seeing this story brought tears to my eyes.<br />
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Becca Blossomshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17540619067576304694noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2950902670580797953.post-35324531006592289722012-08-13T18:22:00.000-07:002012-08-13T18:22:36.312-07:00Hanging out in HammondI just got into Hammond today, I've never really spent time here. Needless to say, I've been neglecting my fans here!! I drove around town today and realize that it's not bad. I found a few restaurants I plan on checking out and I already went tanning this cute little place I found. There are also some stores I simply HAVE to check out. I'm a HUGE bargain shopper and I think I can find some cute things in these stores. <br />
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Speaking of bargain shopping, I always find it funny when I share my money saving techniques with people who really don't know me or the looks I get from fans when they find me in the grocery store with a hand full of coupons. I have my middle class Midwestern upbringing to thank for my money saving skills. My mother was awesome at stretching a dollar, we were all very well taken care of. (I have 4 brothers). Like anyone else, I work hard for my money and I want to make the best decisions with it. The best thing that came out of my (most of the time) good financial decisions, I can put my kids through college :)<br />
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Now, don't get the wrong idea, some things I just can't go cheap on. I HAVE to have Biolage shampoo and conditioner. I will pay more for a nice hotel when I travel. I can never, ever buy cheap meat...that's just not acceptable. I've never cared about the tag on my clothes and you'll never see me with a Gucci bag, I think their ugly and I would never spend that money on any bag no matter what kind of social status it comes with. There are times I will splurge...like when I bought Motley Crue tickets, 5th row center, before the tickets went on sale. I'm not going to tell you the ridiculous amount of money I spent on them, or the shirt I bought at the concert, but I will tell you it was worth every penny.<br />
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Motley Crue...My all time favorite band!!! I get to see them again September 8th at Alpine Valley. My friends and I are renting a limo bus. I didn't even know those existed!!!! I normally won't go to any concert unless I have decent seats however, my friends will make the lawn seats well worth it. Their a hoot and I'm most certainly blessed with them all. Their all crazy but they keep me grounded and sane.<br />
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This past weekend was an eventful one. My daughter had a pretty big 13th birthday party, I had kids everywhere...in the pool, house, all over the yard. It was a great time. A few kids seemed to linger for a few days after the party and boy did that bring back memories. I was once a 13 year old girl and my daughter is way too much like me. Needless to say, my mother loves that fact.<br />
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Becca Blossomshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17540619067576304694noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2950902670580797953.post-47079552839592068372012-08-07T11:37:00.003-07:002012-08-07T11:37:42.492-07:00Oak Creek Sikh ShootingAs I'm sure we're all aware, there was a horrible shooting at the Sikh Temple in Oak Creek, WI. For me, this is way to close to home as I live in Oak Creek. There isn't a place you can go in town and not hear about this or see things that remind you of this horrible tragedy. The Sikh Temple had hundreds of members and they were about to start their service when Wade Michael Page shot and killed 6 people. He, at one point, shot himself after other interactions with people. From what I gather, he was a white supremacist, even having a tattoo on his arm supporting white supremacy. His step mother was interviewed and she claims he has a normal childhood and had friends from different races. <br />
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I really don't want this to turn into a gun issue here. Although Wade's gun, a 9mm, was bought legally, no amount of gun control would have stopped anyone sick enough to do this. If you removed all the guns in the US, the sick, bad people will either find a way to get them illegally or use other weapons. Gun control isn't the issue. Wade was an army veteran, could his experience in the army caused him some issues that went untreated? I really don't know however, it's something to look into and possibly learn from.<br />
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Let's all pray for the victims and their families and even Wade's family and loved ones. This is going to be hard on lot of innocent people. Let's also pray for the Oak Creek police who did a wonderful job and the organizations such as the Salvation Army and Red Cross, who not only responded very quickly but were very accommodating to the needs of the people within their culture and beliefs. The FBI is on this case and the president issued a statement. Regular people from the community cam out to show support and do whatever they could. The pride and love I feel for my community for coming out and banding totterer to help brings tears to my eyes. <br />
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On a lighter note, I'm working on getting my ass to Hammond, IN August 13 and 14. This isn't a place where I would think to visit however, I have had a ton of requests from fans out there to visit, so I am. I have driven through Indiana but have never stayed there for any reason. I'm really looking forward to meeting my fans out there. <br />
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I'm working with Slut Walk Milwaukee this year and I have to say, we have some pretty incredible people working on it this year. I will be posting when our fund raisers will be set in stone. I plan on being at everyone I can. I love the cause and the opportunity to meet incredible people. I would love to see my fans at our fundraisers!!!<br />
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Stay safe everyone and God Bless!!<br />
Becca BlossomsBecca Blossomshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17540619067576304694noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2950902670580797953.post-63751403117329099422012-07-30T12:49:00.000-07:002012-07-30T12:49:30.353-07:00It's hard to believe that in this day and age that people still actually find ways to excuse sexual assault. SWOP-Wisconsin is once again working with Slutwalk, this is the second year for Slutwalk in Milwaukee. We've learned so much from our first Slutwalk and I know this year is going to be better than last year. We're working really hard to stop victim-blaming. It doesn't matter what your wearing, what you do for a living, how intoxicated you are, where your at, what your reputation is or anything else about you, NO ONE deserves to be sexually assaulted for any reason. I'm super excited to be a part of such a great organization. There are some amazing people working on this, just like last year. I will be speaking again this year. I'm not sure exactly where I'm going to go with it however, it will have a sex worker theme to it, of course. I'm looking forward to see who else will be speaking. SWOP-Wisconsin will also have our own table this year, we will be selling merchandise and answering questions about SWOP.<br />
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Here is our PSA from last year. I think it's pretty awesome and I'm looking forward to our new one. <br />
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<br />Becca Blossomshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17540619067576304694noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2950902670580797953.post-46995584292372457092012-07-24T08:07:00.000-07:002012-07-24T08:07:05.997-07:00I'm aware of all the anti porn people in our word and I sincerely try to understand where their coming from. I find most of them to be extreme, ridiculous, mis or uninformed or simply ignorant. Gale Dines is no exception. I just started reading her book "Pornland : How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality" I just started reading this book and I have to say, it's painful. This woman has a lot of learning to do, she's full of a lot of opinion with no substance. One of the things that sticks out to me so far is her complaining about people in the porn industry conducting them as a business. Well...duh, it IS an industry ran by people whose livelihoods depends on their earnings from the porn industry. Who wouldn't conduct themselves as a business? This is one of the first complaints she writes about in her book. <br />
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Dale Gines actually knocks pron producers for being in porn to make money. Well, we all need a source of income and there is nothing wrong with someone choosing the adult industry to make their money. I make my money through the adult industry. I'm an honest, hard working woman with her priorities straight and I guarantee I'm not the only one in adult like this. Gale is making money off the ridiculous book she wrote, she has no right to knock the people working in adult. In a way, she is making money off the adult industry, if the industry didn't exist she would have to find something else to write a book of ridiculousness about. <br />
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Gale claims to have studied the porn industry for 2 years, her writings, so far, fail to reflect that. She is closed minded, biased and seems like a bully when someone doesn't want to agree with her. I'm still researching and reading her book. I will be blogging more about it. So far, I find Gale Dines unimpressive, immature, a bully and, worst of all taking away from the truth. When you take away from the truth, nothing good happens.<br />
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In this clip, Gale claims that there is little rape in porn because women say yes to everything. I say BS. I've NEVER done anything against my will in the industry. No one does what they don't want to do. I don't feel pressure to do things I don't want to do. I've never been raped or sexually assaulted in my industry in fact, I've always been treated with respect and dignity. <br />
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Gale wants to sue pornographers for harm. Really? How are you going to prove that someones choice to watch porn caused harm that is the responsibility of porn? That's like suing McDonald's for your child being obese or blaming a rape victim for being assaulted because her skirt was too short. At what point does Gale feel a person responsible for their own actions and well being?<br />
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Porn has been around as long as humans have been sexual beings, it hasn't killed us yet.<br />
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I'm still reading this ridiculous mess she wrote.<br />
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<br />Becca Blossomshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17540619067576304694noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2950902670580797953.post-64757608065361461882012-07-04T06:01:00.000-07:002012-07-04T06:01:04.930-07:00Happy Independence Day!!!Happy Independence Day to everyone!!! Today is a day that has deep meaning for Americans. It celebrates our independence form the Kingdom of Great Britain and the signing of the Declaration of Independence. We celebrate our freedom and the heroes that fought hard and fight today to protect our independence. For me I make sure that I bring honor and remember one great man that taught me what family values are, what a real man is, and the value of a strong work ethic, making good choices and living right. He was an Admiral in the United States Navy and fought in 2 wars. We all have a hero in our lives and my Grandfather is and always will be mine. I try to honor him every day by putting into action the values he taught me. I know he is up in heaven looking down on me and is proud of me and the two people I'm raising.<br />
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Today is going to be fun :) I'm going on a duck ride with a friend that actually owns a duck, I don't know where you would buy a duck but he acquired one somehow :) I'm looking forward to getting a tan and hanging out. Tonight I'm taking my kids to see fireworks, it's going to be lots of fun. We will most certainly talk about the meaning of the holiday. My kids are awesome, I love hanging out with them :)<br />
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Happy Independence Day Everyone!!!<br />
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<br />Becca Blossomshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17540619067576304694noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2950902670580797953.post-32115926494855040082012-06-29T12:40:00.000-07:002012-06-29T12:40:16.946-07:00An amazing woman, Claudin O'Leary, posted this link on one of my google groups. It really touched me and goes against a lot of sterotypes out there. I like to say "Sex worker are people too" however, I think my new saying is going to be "Sex workers are whole people". <br />
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<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CZ5zTnh_3zc">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CZ5zTnh_3zc</a><br />
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As sex workers, we are up against some pretty tough sterotypes, misconceptions, and downright false statements and abuse. As a sex worker myself, I hold my head high and live my life the best way I can. I know I'm a good person as with most sex workers. <br />
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Here's another video I found...all these woman are showing amazing courage :)<br />
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I've had a very fufilling experience this week...I was at the Human Trafficking Task Force Meeting with another SWOP-Milwaukee member. This meeting was very informative. I've never been a part of something so great and full of suc a diverse group of people working on the same goal. We discussed the laws, the ones that are in place, ones we would like to see in place and laws that shouldn't be in place. I've never been a part of something like this before. Being involved in this is a learning experience and an opportunity to make things better for us all. Im excited to see the results of all our had work :)<br />
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