I'm aware of all the anti porn people in our word and I sincerely try to understand where their coming from.  I find most of them to be extreme, ridiculous, mis or uninformed or simply ignorant.  Gale Dines is no exception.  I just started reading her book   "Pornland : How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality"  I just started reading this book and I have to say, it's painful.  This woman has a lot of learning to do, she's full of a lot of opinion with no substance.  One of the things that sticks out to me so far is her complaining about people in the porn  industry conducting them as a business.  Well...duh, it IS an industry ran by people whose livelihoods depends on their earnings from the porn industry.  Who wouldn't conduct themselves as a business?  This is one of the first complaints she writes about in her book. 

Dale Gines actually knocks pron producers for being in porn to make money.  Well, we all need a source of income and there is nothing wrong with someone choosing the adult industry to make their money.  I make my money through the adult industry.  I'm an honest, hard working woman with her priorities straight and I guarantee I'm not the only one in adult like this.  Gale is making money off the ridiculous book she wrote, she has no right to knock the people working in adult.  In a way, she is making money off the adult industry, if the industry didn't exist she would have to find something else to write a book of ridiculousness about. 

Gale claims to have studied the porn industry for 2 years, her writings, so far, fail to reflect that.  She is closed minded, biased and seems like a bully when someone doesn't want to agree with her.  I'm still researching and reading her book.  I will be blogging more about it.  So far, I find Gale Dines unimpressive, immature, a bully and, worst of all taking away from the truth.  When you take away from the truth, nothing good happens.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7WvZWK4n2ck&feature=related


In this clip, Gale claims that there is little rape in porn because women say yes to everything.  I say BS. I've NEVER done anything against my will in the industry.  No one does what they don't want to do.  I don't feel pressure to do things I don't want to do.  I've never been raped or sexually assaulted in my industry in fact, I've always been treated with respect and dignity. 

Gale wants to sue pornographers for harm.  Really?  How are you going to prove that someones choice to watch porn caused harm that is the responsibility of porn?  That's like suing McDonald's for your child being obese or blaming a rape victim for being assaulted because her skirt was too short.  At what point does Gale feel a person responsible for their own actions and well being?

Porn has been around as long as humans have been sexual beings, it hasn't killed us yet.

I'm still reading this ridiculous mess she wrote.

Happy Independence Day!!!

Happy Independence Day to everyone!!!  Today is a day that has deep meaning for Americans.  It celebrates our independence form the Kingdom of Great Britain and the signing of the Declaration of Independence.  We celebrate our freedom and the heroes that fought hard and fight today to protect our independence.  For me I make sure that I bring honor and remember one great man that taught me what family values are, what a real man is, and the value of a strong work ethic, making good choices and living right.  He was an Admiral in the United States Navy and fought in 2 wars.  We all have a hero in our lives and my Grandfather is and always will be mine.  I try to honor him every day by putting into action the values he taught me.  I know he is up in heaven looking down on me and is proud of me and the two people I'm raising.

Today is going to be fun :)  I'm going on a duck ride with a friend that actually owns a duck, I don't know where you would buy a duck but he acquired one somehow :)  I'm looking forward to getting a tan and hanging out.  Tonight I'm taking my kids to see fireworks, it's going to be lots of fun.  We will most certainly talk about the meaning of the holiday.  My kids are awesome, I love hanging out with them :)

Happy Independence Day Everyone!!!

An amazing woman, Claudin O'Leary, posted this link on one of my google groups.  It really touched me and goes against a lot of sterotypes out there.  I like to say "Sex worker are people too" however, I think my new saying is going to be "Sex workers are whole people". 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CZ5zTnh_3zc

As sex workers, we are up against some pretty tough sterotypes, misconceptions, and downright false statements and abuse.  As a sex worker myself, I hold my head high and live my life the best way I can.  I know I'm a good person as with most sex workers. 

Here's another video I found...all these woman are showing amazing courage :)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?NR=1&feature=endscreen&v=cm9n-WnVDxs



I've had a very fufilling experience this week...I was at the Human Trafficking Task Force Meeting with another SWOP-Milwaukee member.  This meeting was very informative.  I've never been a part of something so great and full of suc a diverse group of people working on the same goal.  We discussed the laws, the ones that are in place, ones we would like to see in place and laws that shouldn't be in place.  I've never been a part of something like this before.  Being involved in this is a learning experience and an opportunity to make things better for us all.  Im excited to see the results of all our had work :)

Did everyone get out to Pridefest this weekend?  I went to Pridefest in Milwaukee for the first time and I brought my daughter.  It was awesome, mind opening, educational, inspiring and simply fun.  I'm so happy I brought my daughter.  She will be next month.  Sometimes you wonder if what your teaching your kids is actually getting through their heads.  I believe that teaching my daughter acceptance, respect and love got through her pretty little head.  She was very mature, took time to stop and learn about different organizations, events and happenings in the gay community.  There was a booth for 24 year olds and under that offered games, prizes and education.  My daughter looked a little shy but paid attention.  She also donated some of her own money to the organizations that seemed to resonate with her. 

I was inspired by the people who embrace who they are and who they want to be.  Seeing anyone, in any community, that has the courage to be who they truly are in spite of any negativing that comes their way is inspiring.  I have a deep respect and love for anyone like this.  I saw a sign that said "Born This Way" and that stuck in my head.  I wonder how any of us who weren't born gay could possibly judge them or tell them they weren't born that way.  When a child is born with a birth mark, certain hair color or a talent for art or mechanics we don't try to tell them they weren't born that way so why do so many do it to anyone who was born gay?

Attending Pridefest only made me want to be more supportive of the gay community.  I will always do what I can do to support them, their rights, their children, their existence.

I saw on the news today that a Texas father found a man on his far trying to molest his 4 year old daughter and he beat him to death. As of the time of me writing this there were no charges filed and he wasn't arrested.  I say God bless him!!!  This man is a hero.  What parent wouldn't take down anyone who tried to molest their child? I know he didn't purposely kiss the bad guy however, the fact that he did probably saved other children.  I think the molester got off too easy.  He should have been beaten to near death then put in prison for life and all the prisoners told what he did.  This man gave that child a life sentence.

A friend of mine told me that civil rights groups are saying the molester's civil rights were violated and the father should be arrested and prosecuted.  REALLY?!?!?!?  The molester violates the rights of an innocent child and give her trauma that she will have to learn to deal with for the rest of her life and some cold hearted group that apparently has no regard to what was done to the child is going to stand up for the bad guy???  This is appalling.  How can they call themselves a civil rights group when they ignore the rights of the victim?

I'm not a supporter of killing people for no reason however, there are exceptions to every rule and when it comes to sexually assaulting a child, I have no problem with the bad guys being killed.  I have children in the world and if I caught anyone sexually assaulting the, I wouldn't hesitate to beat them either.

Way to go dad!!!  You will always be a hero to me.

http://www.sheknows.com/parenting/articles/963002/dad-killed-daughters-molester-may-not-be-charged



I've been visiting Cleveland, OH since Monday and I must say, I absolutely love this city.  The people are wonderful, the food is great and I had a great time.  This was a dual purpose trip.  Of course, I was visiting and meeting fans and the second purpose was to get rid of my fear of road trips.  Since I totaled my van back in November 2011, I have been avoiding road trips.  About a month and a half ago or so I took the trip to Cleveland with a friend.  He did most of the driving and even though I was anxious, it wasn' bad.  This time I tried to drive myself and I'm proud I did well.  I did feel some anxiety however, it wasn't bad.  After I arrived, I felt like I kick the ass of something that has been controlling me and holding me back.  One of my biggest motivators is some trips I have planned with my kids and family and I didn't want to cancel them or miss out because I was too anxious to drive a long distance.  I'm driving home today and I'm ready for the trip!!!

Wow, things have been busy the past couple of weeks and they are going to stay that way all summer.  All good stuff!!   My 2 first scenes in a year came out with Naughty America. Go to www.becablossoms.com and follow the link.   I really felt rusty while shooting these but Yesenia and her crew really know how to make me look good :)  She is by far my favorite director and has been there since my first scene ever.  I'm so blessed to know such awesome people.

I'm going to be in Cleveland, OH June 11 - 13.  I'm meeting with my awesome webmaster to get things rolling on my website so I can give my fans more.  I'm also offering private time with any fans that would like to meet me also.  Contact me at becca@beccablossoms.com if you would like to hang out.  I've only been there one other time to go to the Rock N Roll Hall of Fame with my friend and international Karate Champ Adam Brozer.  Cleveland looked cool but we didn't get to do much more :(

Pridefest is this weekend at the Sumnerfest Grounds in Milwaukee and I'm going to go check it out.  I've never been however, I'm really looking forward to it.  I love the community and will do anything I can to support them.  Everyone I talk to that has been in the past says it's a great time.  I would love to see my fans there!!!

http://www.pridefest.com/

I HAVE to give kudos to JC Penny and I must say I'm a new regular customer.  They put out and ad that featured two real life gay men and their children.  Good for them!!!  There is nothing wrong with the heterosexual family however, that's no the only kind of family in our country.  JC Penny did an excellent job showing a wonderful part of our community that doesn't get enough positive exposure from corporate America.  I was able to show this ad to my children and open a conversation in a positive, undiscriminating way.  Way to go JC Penny!!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yOiQYQsfPqg

Here in Wisconsin we had a historic recall election for governor.  Scott Walker won...again.  I didn't vote for him however, I urge all Wisconsin residents to support him and allow him to do his job.  What's done is done he was the guy that won.  We can hope and pray for the best.

Lately I had a few e mails questioning me if my Tweets were true, am I really just a normal Midwestern mom.  I find this odd because I'm just me.  I am a normal Midwestern mom. I have 2 kids that have made me very proud by finishing their school years with excellent grades.  I do my own yard work, shopping, cooking, etc.  I live in a typical 3 bedroom ranch with a vegetable garden and pool in the back yard.  I drive my kids to school, take them on family vacations, clean my own house and all the other stuff anyone else does.  I don't do drugs, I very seldom drink, I love to run and I hate to scrub my bathtub.  I'm about as 'normal' as anyone can get.   I know, its not very glamorous but it's me.  I have a hard time being anything but who I am...I gotta keep it real :)

If anyone is in Burlington, WI stop at the tobacco shop on Pine Street, across the street form the police station and ask for Ron.  He refused to bring me ice cream one night when I was having a craving.  He's a great guy and he is part owner of the store.  Tell him Becca Blossoms needs ice cream!!!

Now it's time to go to my Slutwalk meeting.

Kisses,
Becca

The more I learn the more I don't know

I've only recently become an activist and I still have a lot to learn.  The more I learn the more I realize that there is so much I don't know.  There is a lot of ignorance in the world and even more people fighting for causes they don't take the time to learn about from all angles, used skewed research and statistics and get down right nasty and insulting to those who don't agree with them.  All this only makes me want to learn more, work harder and be smarter and classier than those who are attacking my industry and blaming it and the people in it for some of society's problems.  It's time for me to start getting more involved.

I came across, thanks to the wonderful people on Twitter, an article that I found interesting.  Porn sites often gets blamed for viruses, malware, etc.  Personally, I have never got a virus or anything from a porn site however, I am aware of the fact that it does happen.  This article explains how and why religious sites put your computer at a greater risk than porn sites.  Check it out:

http://www.dailytech.com/article.aspx?newsid=24613


Human Trafficking is one of the big political issues today and for good reason.  No one, anywhere, for any reason should do ANYTHING against their will.  There are so many people being trafficked right now that the thought of it makes me sick to my stomach.  I'm trying my best to get involved where I can and do what I can to help this issue.  I do what I do out of my own free will however, no one should be forced into it. 

http://paper.li/gunnarsimonsen/trafficking


I'm only one person however, I feel I have a lot to offer.  Please, let's all get involved and protect innocent victims from the scum of society known as pimps.

It's been a busy time!!!

     I just got back from shooting 2 Naughty America scenes in California and I was out of practice!!!  It's been a little over a year since I shot last.  I had to take some time off due to a family member's illness.  I'm very fortunate that Yesenia and her crew were the ones shooting me, they are nothing less than awesome.  There are a lot of wonderful directors in the business however, Yesenia takes the cake.  I love her!!!  Ben, the still photographer has been one of the key people in helping me pose, he has commented on how much I've improved and has said "I feel like I raised you".  In a way, he did have a hand in raising Becca Blossoms :)  Matty is always cute and somehow never ages.  He is so relaxed and has such a great attitude.  Rolly is Yesenia's brother is one of the hardest working people I've ever met.  He treats me like a lady should be treated.

     My first scene was will Bill Bailey.  This guy is in his 30's but is so hot he actually played my son.  I loved his hit of a southern accent and he was so sweet and polite.  My second scene was with Alan Stafford who is super ripped.  This was the second time I worked with Alan and both times he has been so sweet and very good at what he does.  Needless to say, it was a good day on the job :)

     I was only in town for 3 days, it was a super quick trip.  I stayed with my good friend, Powder.  He's a very intelligent, knowledgeable sweet person.  It was nice to just hand out with him the day I got in and after my shoots.  On the third day I didn't see him because I had to leave :(  I feel a little sad because I didn't get to see my good friend Lynn Lemay, this was the first time in a very long time that I came out and didn't see her.  I love that girl!!

     The morning I woke up to get ready to go to LAX, I found an article on Twitter written by a member of SWOP-NYC.  I found it informative, intelligently written and very  straight forward.  Here is the article, I have shared it with lots of people, including the members of SWOP-Wisconsin.

http://www.thedailytransmission.com/2012/04/27/how-not-to-end-sex-trafficking-my-day-testifying-at-the-new-york-city-council/

     Human Trafficking is a horrible crime and everyone needs to be aware of it.  I'm working on getting involved in some volunteer groups to offer what I can to help those who are victims and bring down the bad guys.  It's amazing that in this day and age we still have slavery in the United States. 

     As far as current events with SWOP-Wisconsin, we're planning on visiting Madison.  Madison is about an hour and a half from Madison and there are a lot of sex workers in that area.  This isn't surprising with it being a college town and all.  We're going to have a public event; "Hang out With SWOP" where we hang out in a bar and chat with whoever wants to get to know us.  After that, we're doing another screening workshop.  I'm looking forward to this workshop.  The first one we did in Milwaukee was ok however, it was also a learning experience.  Everything I do lately has been learning experiences and I absolutely love it.  I'm sometimes not sure of myself and get anxious over new people and situations however, things always seem to work out in the end.

Hugs,

Becca